We are now just few hours into the New Year and I bet we are all seeking to grow and achieve more in every aspect of our lives, be it our relationships, family lives, health, spirituality and careers, right? Yes of course!
Now the question is how is your circle? Is it looking good? That’s for you to answer but think deeply about it and explore all areas before making any judgement. (Whilst you are pondering over it, am gonna crack on)
In clarification, circle is basically your clique (that is if you are a bit urban like me) in plain English, it simply means people in your life and I cannot stress enough to you the importance of having the right people in your life; this can either make or break your growth as an individual, after all as humans we need each other to function hence the popular saying of “no man is an island”.
Beware of negative circle, the put-downers as I fondly call them, the bullies and the takers that never give. The ones who seek to downgrade all your achievements to make themselves feel better…yeah? Those people in your life who never support your effort to be your personal best instead they drag you down with their unkind words and negative attitude. I bet you have come across those and they are still sitting in your circle as we speak. These individuals also come in form of family members and work colleagues. On that note,I want you to be aware that Negativity can be very contagious and we do not need this type of individuals if we hope to progress in life.
I am not implying that our happiness rely on others but as humans we tend to achieve more and grow better with a positive support system, we seek love, peace, reassurance and kindness from each other. It’s ok for me to come here and preach to you about this but I have been a victim of poisonous circle for so long and it took me donkey’s years to say ENOUGH IS FRIGGING ENOUGH! and started to pick and choose who stays in my circle, who i share my life, my flaws and my vulnerability with. However this is still work in progress as sometimes i still find myself in this situation but i find that am now stronger and confident enough to nip it in the bud. (Patting myself on the back.)
I am thankful for people in my life at the moment, my family, Friends and the Adam of my life are so supportive and so kind, I feel totally blessed.
Here’s what am doing to protect myself from poisonous circle, you may add more to the list as you leave your comments because I want to learn from you too;
v Being my own best friend.
v Being confident in myself as a person.
v Staying focused on my goals and ignoring unconstructive criticism.
v Networking with positive people and staying away from negative ones.
v Appreciating those that have genuine interest in me.
v Maintaining my personal relationship with my God.
Thank you for finding time to read my blog today, please let me know your opinion and also share your experience if you prefer. Jane xx