Valentine’s Day is always exciting especially if you are in a loving relationship. I must admit that it has the tendency of being a bit cheesy but It is without a doubt a great way of reassuring each other of love and friendship. At least this is the case for me and my partner.
I have woken up this morning to a sweet gesture of love from my Valentine; A pretty single rose, redder than my YSL lipstick and a gorgeously made card. In the card was a beautiful summary of our love, our friendship and all the difficulties we have experienced so far in our relationship. Handing me a cup of tea, he said quietly, ‘your present will come through the door today and I hope you like it, sorry it didn’t arrive earlier as I planned’ (now this is the part where you go awwww). There are more planned for me but I won’t mention otherwise I’ll look like a show off.
He was not alone on this, I have also made a great effort of getting a little present (which was not yet another art book) and a card that I wrote with much thought, expressing my love and appreciation for him. He smiled and went a little red-faced.
I met my lovely other half three years after my marriage broke down and I was a struggling single mother raising three little children. At the time, I was completely bunkers; juggling all the nasty things life had thrown at me, disappointed, depressed, angry, and overweight and grossly in debt. Nonetheless, I somehow managed to slap up my face nicely with my make up on our first date and had him enchanted (I do scrub up well when I put my mind to it).
Soon enough, he looked beyond all my glamour, my big smile and he cleverly spotted the pain I had hidden from everyone and fell in love with me. Although I carried the emotional baggage from my failed marriage, I gave love another chance, ignoring the fear of being let down again and continued to grow in confidence and mindfulness. Since then, I have found my strength and rediscovered myself, however I kept my individuality and showed myself as God had created me, without being criticized. It is always very difficult to give your heart to another person especially if you have been told in the past that you were not good enough.
What I admire most about my present relationship is our courage to express our differences and without shame continue to learn from each other. We have challenges in our relationship like everybody else and having a different cultural background meant that we had to make sacrifices but without any loss of individuality. Our journey continues and I look forward to brighter future filled with love, peace and ability to fight obstacles together.
Do not mistake me for a ‘softie’ but there is something wonderful about loving and being loved. I am so glad that after years of pain and disappointment, I can find courage to love again and be committed to it. I strongly feel that those who have love are by far better than those who have all the riches in the world.
Have a great Valentine’s Day and never stop loving.